JetUNsetter

This sounds like stating the obvious no? Humans are humans. Frogs are frogs. Why would a human want to be a frog? For the leaping. Humans crave quick results and instant satisfaction. They would do anything to skip a step of growth. To jump straight into satisfaction without the pain.

Funnily, “pain” in French is bread, the most basic of foods. So maybe we need to come to terms with the fact that pain is the food of growth. No leaping, no skipping no avoiding. You get the bad stuff to get to the good stuff.

From the moment we are born, the very moment of birth there is pain. For us and for our mothers. But look what humans did: they developed all sorts of methods and chemicals to skip the pain. We cannot even think about pain even though it introduces us to life itself. It’s life’s first experience. We learn to cry before we lean to laugh. Our coming into this world is marked by our first tears and a loud scream.

So how about we don’t panic at the sight of pain? How about we embrace its normality, its frequence and its necessity. I am sure half the rooms of psychiatrists and analysts are packed by pain avoidant humans. Humans who want to be frogs. And then these same humans read the stories of the successful turning a blind eye to the hurdle craftfully weaved into that success. Classrooms and study rooms are packed with those who can endure the price for growth. Babies know. They keep on trying despite their clumsiness. They don’t mind the crying. So what interferes and messes up with our brain and we become avoidant of our very nature, of that same process we so gracefully embrace as kids?

I am trying to get better at writing myself and yet I do not write every day. I am trying to become a better person yet I am not willing to embrace the pain of growth. And is it really a journey forward or just a few steps back to our very nature we seem to lose along the way?

Please help me make sense of this one too.