JetUNsetter

A lot of the times the easiest is to blame other people. Or to depend on other people. We become someone’s victim. We dedicate our beautiful life on revenge. We deprive ourselves from happiness holding a grudge. We love someone too much and we sacrifice things for them. We depend on someone’s attention and validation that we lose ourselves. We forget what we want. We lose sight of our needs.

But then, there are those moments where we circle back to ourselves. Only to discover this someone for whom or to whom we are doing all these things, wasting our life on or depending our happiness from does not exist. They are in our heads. The real person behind this burden we loaded on them has no idea we are depending so much on them.

The manager did not make us yell. They might be a jerk still but we contributed to the decision of the yelling. In fact, it was entirely our decision. Triggered by the jerkiness no doubt, but our decision alone.

That partner did not make us miss our friend’s party. Unless they kept us locked in a room, throwing the keys away, we did not go.

Our misfortune, the situations we put ourselves in, the discussions that did not go well, the negotiations that failed, the service performed poorly only on us, could be us subtly creating the toxicity around us or not protecting us from the toxicity of others. We are our worst enemy. We alone, can inflict tremendous problems upon ourselves.

Why we do it? We have swallowed beliefs and behaviours that dim our light, sabotage our encounters, put us in misery before we even meet other people.

How to undo it? It sounds circular but it all depends on us again. We are our best friend. We can lift us up from the misery, put our best foot forward and shine.

It’s like a nightmare while we sleep. That same brain creates the horrible, scary, ugly story. That same brain gives the signal we should wake up and escape it…

How do we silence the wrong voice? How do we know which voice is the wrong one? Help me make sense of this one too…

Meanwhile, I will go spend some time with my best friend 😉